I've seen a lot of weddings.
People hire me because
they care about music and dancing, and that is the perspective from
which I write- throwing a killer dance party.
Remember that for every opinion or "rule" I espouse, there have been times when they've been tossed out and the party has been great. But I've also seen events bogged down by avoidable obstacles. I hope you find this useful.
Eric's Wedding DJ Life
Insight on the Wedding Dance Party
Wednesday, July 5, 3015
Tuesday, May 16, 2017
Everything You Need to Know About Hiring a DJ for a Wedding
Get a recommendation, or
witness the DJ perform: Witnessing a DJ rock the
house or you talking to a trusted friend (with good taste) helps weed the crop of
“professional” DJ’s. A good DJ will have experience performing around town (or the world) and will
have the expertise that goes with that.
I get 90% of my work from recommendations and people who’ve seen me
perform.
Ability: Quite simply, it’s the skill of playing the right song at
the right time. Forget about
“scratching”, microphone skills, or wearing a stupid tuxedo, you want a DJ who
can read a crowd; know when to bring the energy up, know when to play a
slow jam, know what songs will bring the older folks onto the floor, what songs
will make the younger crowd cheer, and when to drop the anthem that will bring
everyone together. Having good
taste in music is part of it, but a DJ has to have an innate ability to choose
the next song wisely.
Experience: There are a gazillion things that can go wrong DJ’ing a
wedding. Cords break, speakers
fail, records skip, drunk dudes ask to bust a rhyme over the music, etc. Any of these can drag your party to a
halt. An experienced DJ will have run
into these problems before and will be prepared to solve them. You don’t pay for experience when
everything goes right, you pay for experience when things go wrong and you
don’t want it to affect your party
Responsibility: There are a lot of enormously talented people whose creative
right-sided brains make this world a better place. But you want your DJ to show up, on time, and be
prepared. Of course you want them
to be creative and talented (see Ability above), but that does you no good if
they flake on you.
Taste in music: “Good” music is subjective. A wedding in the South might have more country western music,
a Jewish wedding in New York will have its musical proclivities. Personally, I like a well-rounded DJ
that has genuine appreciation for different styles of music and can read a
crowd. That being said, not
everyone is the right DJ for the job. It’s important that you are musically simpatico with
the DJ and that he/she can handle your requests. If you don’t have strong opinions about music then see Get A
Recommendation above.
Meet the DJ: Grab coffee and discuss your party. You’ll get a better feel for the
person, the kind of music they play, and see if it’s a good fit. Plus they might have some insight that
will help you prepare.
Get a contract, place a
deposit: Sounds super business-like and
impersonal, but you will feel better and it will go onto the DJ’s calendar as confirmed. And you don’t want someone else swooping in to grab
your talent.
Book ahead: Top performers are in demand and their calendars fill up
fast. I recommend six to eight
months in advance, maybe more if your party is on a popular weekend. At least get the conversation
going and ask them to pencil you in, in case someone else contacts
him/her. If dancing is important
to you, you should be thinking about this after you pick your date and choose
the venue.
Re-connect with the DJ the week
of event: A little reminder will kick them into high
gear and give everyone peace of mind.
You get what you pay for: Just like bands, caterers, or photographers, DJ’s posses a
skill set that is available on the open market. Maybe you can save money by catching them on the assent of
their career or at a slow time of year.
Maybe you’ll find an amazing DJ that will quote you a super cheap
price. But performers that are
talented, in demand, and good at what they do, cost a lot of money. And keep in mind that the amount of
time you see a DJ playing music is a fraction
of the total time they spend preparing for and wrapping up a gig. If you have zero budget you might be
better off with an ipod, rental speakers, and a friend with good taste to make a
playlist, because that’s the same thing you get with an inexpensive DJ.
Of
course rules can be broken, and after all someone did hire me for my first, second, and third wedding. But I also remember the time my power
amp blew and I didn’t have a backup.
Or the time the bride and groom told me “all their friends were cool”
and they didn’t want to hear “popular” songs, only to have me get terrorized by
their guests demanding to hear Rapper’s Delight and Billy Jean. At those parties I’m sure I was a
good DJ and had lots of club experience, but in time I learned a ton about
weddings.
This
info might seem overwhelming, but the DJ should make it easy for you, not more
difficult and you shouldn’t have to think about it on the day of your
event. If dancing and music is a
priority for you, then your legwork will pay off.
Good
luck and have a fun wedding day!
Social Cues: The First Dance
I’m
a huge fan of having a first dance.
Weddings have built in cues and often guests will NOT start dancing
until the bride and groom take their first dance together. I will now contradict that statement by
saying that some parties have epically awesome peeps raring to go OR have
cultural traditions (Jewish) and will spark a dance floor before the first
dance is taken.
Be
aware that your first dance together has tremendous POWER to get a dance party going. Taken too early might throw away the
momentum, taken too late might delay the dancing portion of the night. F.Y.I. - full bellies right after
dinner will take some time to digest before you feel like shakin’ it.
My preference is to have a time window (after dinner, after cake, etc) and play it by ear, read the crowd, and use the first
dance like a poker player going ALL IN at the right time (sorry for the poker
reference). If the dance floor
sparks BEFORE the first dance then you can use it as lovely break in the action
to have a shared romantic moment.
*A
wedding planner gave great advice; designate in advance a handful of friends to take the
floor to accelerate the momentum.
Usually I will get on the mic and invite everyone to surround the floor
for the first dance(s) and then invite everyone to join in right after. Boom,
dance party started!
Hot Hot Hot
Heads
up, it’s difficult to get people dancing when it is super hot out. Outdoor
summer weddings can have temperatures in the 100’s and when the sun goes down
you can sense the relief from the party. Keep this in mind when planning the timeline
and the dance floor location.
For
example when the sun goes down and there is no AC inside a venue, people are going to
be standing OUTSIDE cooling off for a while before entering to dance.
Experienced
wedding planners and location managers are a great resource for advice on this
matter. If it’s a private home/ location keep an eye on the weather pattern
leading up to the event and build in some flexibility based around what you
discover.
Wednesday, September 16, 2015
"I have to hear this song at my wedding"
If
you HAVE TO HEAR a song at your party, let the DJ know, email an mp3 hard copy,
and bring a backup on an ipod, cell phone, or other music player. Having backups is always smart.
DJ's should want to get your list of song ideas because it gives them a good idea what you are all about. I will bring songs that I own off the list, I will even buy a couple that are good ideas, if the list is long and the couple doesn't own them I will offer to BUY them on their behalf. I don't pirate download because the quality isn't guaranteed and it's not nice to artists.
*A
note about streaming services such as Spotify or Apple Music: Sharing a playlist with the DJ doesn’t
count as sending a “hard copy” of a song.
Because streaming is played off the magical cloud in the sky, it is
unreliable and runs into technical difficulties. I don’t use streaming services for DJ’ing, I use hard copies
(mp3’s and old school vinyl).
Sunday, July 12, 2015
Too Much Information
DJ's should be genuinely curious what clients want to hear for music and how the party map is laid out, the time line of the event, special requests, etc. It's best to deliver that info in organized chunks.
One time the bride (bless her heart) sent me TONS of single emails with bits and pieces of info and adjustments on that info. When it came time for me to prepare week of, I had so many emails lined up it made my head spin. All of her careful detail and planning became a maze of ADHD confusion.
My advice is to give your DJ the "big picture" details long in advance, maybe during your coffee consultation, and then send him/her the email with the mp3's and finalized details the week of. And confirm they they received said email. This will help your DJ focus and stay organized, and eliminate time consuming communications and frustration when they missed a detail buried in an email.
One time the bride (bless her heart) sent me TONS of single emails with bits and pieces of info and adjustments on that info. When it came time for me to prepare week of, I had so many emails lined up it made my head spin. All of her careful detail and planning became a maze of ADHD confusion.
My advice is to give your DJ the "big picture" details long in advance, maybe during your coffee consultation, and then send him/her the email with the mp3's and finalized details the week of. And confirm they they received said email. This will help your DJ focus and stay organized, and eliminate time consuming communications and frustration when they missed a detail buried in an email.
Wednesday, July 8, 2015
Better to Burn Out than Fade Away
I like a big ending. One last song to bring everyone together. It's a great way to cap off a great day. This involves having a stop time at an hour when the guests will still be present.
Be realistic about how late your guests will stay. A destination wedding where everyone is sleeping on-site can usually handle a later stop time than an in-town wedding where it's easier for guests to peal away. If your crew can handle a long haul party, and some can, consider a window for stopping and play it by ear.
It bums me out to have a handful of drunk stragglers for the last song instead of a big group of friends and family. Consider going out BIG and taking it to an after party location. And don't forget that you're gonna need time to clean up!
Be realistic about how late your guests will stay. A destination wedding where everyone is sleeping on-site can usually handle a later stop time than an in-town wedding where it's easier for guests to peal away. If your crew can handle a long haul party, and some can, consider a window for stopping and play it by ear.
It bums me out to have a handful of drunk stragglers for the last song instead of a big group of friends and family. Consider going out BIG and taking it to an after party location. And don't forget that you're gonna need time to clean up!
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